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  Life is a tedious journey or not! After all it’s a matter of perception and our attitude and the courage of conviction, wit, a sense of confidence and enthusiasm. But this is not all! This not the end of the road.

To the lazy and the least bothered, who have no sense of responsibility and have no feeling of guilt, life is about a series of events, and they take life as it happens without feeling its burden and have no care…so one day all is fine and another day there is hell to pay followed by another upswing and so on. It’s a day to day existence and….. ‘Tomorrow is another day and we shall see when the sun rises’ …. ‘At least today has been taken care of’ …. And that is all that matters.

For some this is a matter of choice because they have good financial backing and little worries for tomorrow and someone to take care of them, at least up to a point and so well…’ let’s take full benefit of it and make hay while the sun shines ‘so to speak. For others it is due to circumstances which force them into such a life style and they get bogged down into its vicious circle.

But those that are born in a reasonably supportive environment things are different. Awareness of this fact is of utmost importance…. It’s all about being in the present and projecting it into the future to maintain a smooth functioning system.

This has to be imbibed at a very young age where the need for details are considered important, and breezing thru life like it was a joyride is definitely not an option. Of course to the young and the adult this spells of boredom and an unnecessary exercise in increasing unwanted burden and hence leads to a laidback attitude.

Thus being particular about everything just seems to be an uphill task and requires too much effort and seems to suck out the enjoyment of what is now called life.

The modern way of living in fact, is spelling doom for mankind where frivolous attitude together with a temporary and short view, has led to waste and destruction, of what was once a value based existence turning life into one which has no substance. Now it’s all about shallowness, too much width and very little depth.

Earlier living patterns whether in small or large traditional families, had rules and regulations which imbibed a certain sense of being particular. Granted that being particular is by no means easy. It requires one to have an eye for detail, a constant alertness to one’s surroundings and a need for prompt action. Thus one had to be energetic and observant. Of course as this was a routine behavioral pattern and the entire household followed it the child absorbed it naturally and this being particular became second nature to the individual.

Thus it started with the little things like keeping everything back in its place after use to carrying all your burdens to the best of your ability without passing on to others or making your own bed and keeping your own stuff clean. It extended to all every day routine personal matters …not opening the tap too much or shutting off the light and fan, closing the door after you leave the room and cleaning the table after meals, lifting stuff off fallen on the floor. In short doing all your little chores yourself. Get up and fetch your own glass of water, and not order people around.

This ‘particularness’ was extended into the social and economic or work life. Thus quick response, not crossing lines, maintaining one’s counsel and respecting boundaries and personal spaces. It meant being vigilant and taking quick action, responding with balance and in correct magnitude all the time being aware of the environment and its relevant needs.

In short it was all about respecting everyone and everything and this created a attitude that was at once caring and thoughtful.
Being particular had many good fallouts. Firstly it is a huge learning process, it inculcates a sense of what is right action, it encourages the need to be balanced in action and the ability to think for everything increases many fold. Further it creates a thinking mind. Thought before action is a natural fall out. Above all it will create a sense of responsibility towards yourself and others. It develops an eye for detail that will help to find loopholes and gaps. Very necessary in a modern selfish world where everyone is out to get everybody else.

Being particular actually renders a person safe from many future problems, as it does the work of preemption, it controls your actions and avoidance of unnecessary action as the details taken care of prevent situations from taking place at all. All this leads to saving a lot of energy and time. It stops all unnecessary action and keeps things well ordered and smooth. It creates a sense of gratitude and increases accountability and responsibility to your surroundings, it helps the person to be alert to every aspect of life. This will result in the ability to make decisions quickly, be concise and to the point. It will lead to clarity of thought and action and enable one to be more efficient.

Indeed, now we can call it ‘The Art of Being Particular’. Sadly what was once traditional and a natural process, handed down from one generation to the other has now become a subject matter of deliberate learning to reap its benefits. Once again we have to start learning what we already knew but refused to accept in the name of modernity, which is reviving the age-old knowledge and putting it in a shiny bottle and presenting it anew, preferably in a high rise trendy commercial tower with all the paraphernalia and tools of the modern education industry starting with fliers to mails and sms and the lot…… for then only will it be accepted……. as it gains a lofty status in the mind of the hearer. It’s accepted even more easily if it comes from the west and presented with the use of modern tools. Suddenly now being particular gains importance!

We Indians are culturally sound but fail to learn from it and every single thing, that we naturally could get at home ,has been converted into a commercial proposition by the west and then brought to India and now is made in India too.

Clearly the whole situation of who we are and what we have need a re-thinking before all gets lost in a pattern of living where commercialization and life are fast becoming synonyms in a qualitatively deteriorating world.

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